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theoriginalblurker) wrote2005-11-22 02:36 pm
theoriginalblurker) wrote2005-11-22 02:36 pm
Butterflies in the Stomach? Try Pepto.
There is a period of time during a new romantic relationship when everything is heart-poundingly exciting. Does she like me as much as I like her? Will he ask me out? When will we kiss? Will she be a good kisser? Will he want to do more? Will my parents walk in on us? (ok, that one was a little dated)
Once the relationship becomes more "established," whether it now be a marriage, or any other long-term contract where there is no longer any question about the nature of the romance, something is certainly lost. There will never again be that nervous feeling in the stomach that comes from the unknown. You each know exactly how the other looks without clothes. You know their likes and dislikes, both in food and in sex. The blush is off the rose, to use an old cliché.
I suspect that there are many people who are addicted to that rush of adrenaline that comes with unknown romantic territory. They believe that this feeling is what it means to be in love with another person. Once that feeling has faded, they must no longer be in love, so they go looking for another territory. I don't mean to imply that this is the only reason for people to be unfaithful in their relationships, but I think it is a factor in many cases.
So, after a while we lose that rush of adrenaline, but what do we get in return? Ignore for a moment the security of any children that have come from the relationship, and just concentrate on the idea of romantic love. What do we get from the established relationship? And is one "better" than the other?
I have some ideas on this subject, but I'm interested in hearing other's opinions before I blather on (any more than I've already done).
Once the relationship becomes more "established," whether it now be a marriage, or any other long-term contract where there is no longer any question about the nature of the romance, something is certainly lost. There will never again be that nervous feeling in the stomach that comes from the unknown. You each know exactly how the other looks without clothes. You know their likes and dislikes, both in food and in sex. The blush is off the rose, to use an old cliché.
I suspect that there are many people who are addicted to that rush of adrenaline that comes with unknown romantic territory. They believe that this feeling is what it means to be in love with another person. Once that feeling has faded, they must no longer be in love, so they go looking for another territory. I don't mean to imply that this is the only reason for people to be unfaithful in their relationships, but I think it is a factor in many cases.
So, after a while we lose that rush of adrenaline, but what do we get in return? Ignore for a moment the security of any children that have come from the relationship, and just concentrate on the idea of romantic love. What do we get from the established relationship? And is one "better" than the other?
I have some ideas on this subject, but I'm interested in hearing other's opinions before I blather on (any more than I've already done).
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I was referring to love that included a sexual aspect, rather than the old knight-in-shining-armor type of situation. I'm sure there is a better word for this, but I couldn't come up with one at the time.
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Romantic love tends to imply a focus on the emotional content of the relationship.